Be a Warrior not a Worrier’
Have we become a nation of worriers? It seems we have, according to new research by a London University. Top of the list is not being able to sleep, but losing our glasses or running out of phone battery also result in heightened panic, said psychologists at Goldsmiths, University of London. Context was also important. If a person was already stressed, a “tiny” problem seemed huge
Are you always rushing around, reliving things in the past and forecasting a future that hasn’t even happened; are you caught in a never ending overthinking circle. Women seem to be the main culprits of this. They do a good job of catastrophizing or so-called “fearcasting”. Catastrophizing is an irrational thought a lot of us have in believing that something is far worse than it actually is; the brain is planning for all eventualities, no matter how unrealistic. The research said that almost a third of women and a quarter of men did it daily.
With all the hundreds of decisions we make every day and with more information and technological gadgets to hand, it has caused us to have so many options for everything, we worry about which one is the right one to choose. At the end of the day it is easier to stick with what you know in the comfort zone of life, as it can be scary and worrying to do anything else. At least with that decision you know what you get, but how do you break out of the zone and become a warrior.
What do worriers do? Well, they can feel tense and anxious and sometimes overwhelmed with the things that are going on in their lives; this can lead to low mood and depression. Worriers are often busy people who take on more responsibility; by doing this it takes the focus away from the things they are worried about but this can lead to stress and more anxiety as ultimately there are more things to worry about and so the cycle continues. Worriers are often full of self-doubt and question their ability on a regular basis. This can cause them to give up and to think about all the possibilities of things going wrong. The good news is that research suggests they are more likely to be smart and people prone to anxiety have higher levels of intelligence.
What do warriors do? Well, they focus on how to overcome any potential obstacles that could come their way. They look for challenging opportunities, things that will stretch their abilities and stepping out of that comfort zone. Warriors will look forward to the future and focus on those desired outcomes and goals and will not quit until they have been achieved. Any setbacks warriors experience they will use it to elevate them forward.
So how do you go from worrier to a warrior, well these simple tips should help, so join Free the Butterfly and release that inner warrior.
Control: Thinking things through over and over again can be a way to try to control everything in doing so you do not take a risk, make a mistake or fail. Unfortunately that isn’t the way things work, everyone makes mistakes, it is important to look at what you can take from the negative and using it to help you in the future. Try and stop taking control of everything and fortune telling as no one can predict all the possible scenarios that could happen.
Declutter the Mind: Just like your cupboards or your knickers drawer, have a clear out of your mind, any old thoughts and beliefs that no longer fit with your life anymore, file them under B for BIN.
Perspective: Think if the things you worry about will matter in a week’s time, a month’s time, a year’s time. If you look at it from this perspective it can help you let go of the minor worries and allow you to focus your time on something that actually matters to you.
Be Mindful: Being in the present not worrying about the past or the future
- Sit comfortably with your spine upright; find a position you can maintain without feeling uncomfortable
- Try not to control your thoughts too much just let them come and go in your head.
- Focus on your breathing, follow the breathing techniques from above and take note of the breaths going in and out, this allows your mind to stay connected with the present. Mindfulness is all about focusing on the present.
- Do this for 10-15 minutes or build up to that time, ideally it would be good to get up to 30 minutes.
Nurture your soul: Often life can become so busy that we can actually forget to do things that nurture us and keep us enjoying life. We can keep putting these things off, thinking that next week or next month will be less busy and then we will do the things we enjoy. However, if you take time out today to do something that nourishes your soul then you will be recharged and better equipped to deal with day to day routines, worries and even stressful events.
‘You are never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream’ (CS Lewis): Define what your goals are and keep reassessing to see if they are still relevant, do not always have a time limit as that adds pressure. Remember life is a journey you can change paths when needed.
Choice, Control & Change: You have choice and control over your life, take responsibility of it and stop blaming others or events for not achieving what you want. The power to change is in your hands
As Martin Luther King said
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward”.